Archive for April, 2012

True Love

Posted: April 24, 2012 in Uncategorized

What is “LOVE”?

Let’s be real here, we all think we know what love is. When we “love” someone we think we love them fully, trust me, you and I, yeah we CANNOT love FULLY. Before I go on any further let me tell you what “Love” is NOT

“Now Hollywood wants to make you think they know what love is but I’m tell you what true love is, love is not what you see in the movies. It’s not the ecstasy, its not what you see in that scene” Movies nowadays really in truth insult what true love is. The media influence us to think what true love is. It’s all about the looks or the materials that person have. Even if that is not the main thing, lets be honest those play a huge role whether we want to go for someone or not.

“I’m telling you right now, true love is sacrifice. Love is thinking about others before you think about yourself. Love is selfless not selfish. Love is when you lay down your life for another, whether for your brother, your mother, your father or your sister. It’s even laying down your life for your enemies, that’s unthinkable, but think about that, love is true”

That is the true essence of love, SACRIFICE. Love is not only during the good times, love surface at its most especially in difficult times. I honestly believe you can measure one’s love for you when you are going through a tough time. So that person, that you neglect who always was there for you loves you, it might not be in a boyfriend-girlfriend way but he/she cares about you. Ask yourself, how much do you love that “person” and please don’t give me stupid excuses like “He/she should come to me first” or anything else, I’ve met ALOT of people and they say they don’t want to trouble a person but when someone ask a simple question “are you okey?” it’s more than a question, it’s saying “hey I care about you..I’m worried about you”. In my personal experience, that happened to me. I offered to pray for a girl for any of her needs and she was changed because of that, later she told me “no one every ask if they could pray for me”. It’s powerful, it really is. Even if you don’t have the best advice, I tell you..the very fact that you asked showed that you care and honestly sometimes the presence, ONLY the presence of someone is good enough. it’s good to know someone wants to share even a bit of their pain.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs, you see love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, it always perseveres , love never fails. Love is everlasting, its eternal, it goes on and on, it goes beyond time, love is the only thing that will last when you die but ask the question why? Do you have love?”

Patient, kind, does NOT envy, boast, proud, rude, self seeking, easily angered, keeps no records of wrongs. ALWAYS protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres. Can you do that? All of them? And those I did not list? Absolutely not. So who are you to judge someone if you yourself can’t fulfill all of those? I see many couples, many friendships when something goes wrong usually something similar happens…”LAST TIME YOU……” “YOU DID THAT BEFORE”, we usually pull something from the past and use it against one another. My friend, it just shows that you have not forgiven that person fully which means you lied when you said you did or you just never did.  You’re not perfect like everyone who gave you the right to be angry at someone else’s imperfections. Bishop Cornelius gave an advice for me to deal with anger, “When you realize that other people are broken, hurt sometimes even more than us, we can understand them and not be angry” Very true words.

You see the only person that can give true love is God. Am I saying that love here on earth is fake, not at all. All I’m saying is we all fall short in giving true love and hence we have no rights in being judgmental. We need to learn to forgive, to understand, to SERVE and NOT be served because love nowadays border on “what you can do for me” or “what you make me feel”…you see sometimes love can be found in the small things that people do. If you want to know who really loves you, reflect..when you are going through a tough time, who was with you?, what did they say?, what did they do? It does not mean if a person is there for you they automatically love you, some are just there to make fun of you, to say “only that?!”. The things people do or say is what really matters.

“There is no greater love than this than he who lays down his life for his friends, now are you willing to lay down your life for your friends? You’re probably willing to lay down your life for your mother, your father, or your best friends but are you willing to lay down your life for even those that hate you?”